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This is a re-blog of a blog post originally made on 7 October, 2014. An edited version of this essay appears in the excellent anthology: The Real Experts: Readings for Parents of Autistic Children, edited by the incomparable Michelle Sutton and available for purchase from Autonomous Press or a library or bookseller near you (and if it is not available at a library or bookseller near you, please do ask them to provide copies. Thank you.) This essay also appeared as a guest post on the Diary of a Mom blog and on the Tiny Grace Notes blog.

Content note: compliance-based training, labeled as therapy. Lasting trauma and PTSD from ill-advised treatments. Sexual abuse and rape. The lasting effects of ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis). The risk of being told “not my ABA.”


This week, I watched a community implode. I’m not going to talk about that, though, because it was very painful to watch people I love being treated so badly. But a lot of the implosion centered around a topic I do want to talk about. That topic is ABA – Applied Behavior Analysis, a common type of therapy for Autistic children. I watched people fight around in circles, chasing their metaphorical tails. It will take some time and lots of words to unpack this topic, but I hope you will stick with me on this because it’s so important and there is a lot that needs to be understood here.

Here’s the argument in a nutshell. It gets longer, angrier, and much more detailed than this, but I am exhausted just from reading the fighting, so I’m boiling it all down to two statements. And both statements are correct.

Autistic adult: “ABA is abuse.”

Parent of Autistic child: “I’m not abusive and my child is benefitting greatly from ABA therapy.”

You read me right: both statements are correct. That is part of what I need to unpack today. I think the best place to start is with the fact that both people above are using the term “ABA”, but what they are actually talking about are usually two different things. First we need to define ABA.

Well, actually, first I want to put people at ease. Parents — it’s got to be painful to feel like a whole group of people are ganging up on you and telling you that you are abusing your child. You love your child. You want the best for your child. You are spending thousands of dollars out of pocket to try to give your child the best possible chance in life. You worry about your child. You feel like you never even knew what love was until your child came along. You are not abusing your child. And if something you are doing is harming your child, you want to know about it and stop it. It hurts to be told that you are abusive toward the child you love so much.

And my fellow Autistics — you grew up feeling picked apart. You were subjected to things that harmed you. You still have PTSD today from things that may have been done with your best interests at heart but were actually quite damaging. You don’t fit in to the world around you and the adults who were charged with your care when you were growing up were stumbling around in the dark when it came to trying to figure out how to raise a child like you were. It is triggering to see that so many of the things that hurt you when you were growing up are still being said and done to and about children who are so very much like you were when you were their age. You want to stop the cycle of pain and you want children to grow up happy, healthy, and loved. It frightens and angers you to see many of the “best practices” that Autistic children today live with.

And there is a good chance that the two of you — the Autistic adult and the parent of an Autistic child — are not even talking about the same thing when you say “ABA.” Major organizations (particularly Autism Speaks) have lobbied hard for Medicaid and insurance companies to cover ABA therapy for Autistic children. As a result, many therapists now call what they do “ABA,” even in cases where the actual therapy is very different from genuine ABA, in order to have their services covered by insurance. It’s similar to the philosophy of therapists I’ve known who don’t believe in diagnosing mental illness but put a name on their patients’ struggles anyway because many insurance policies only pay for therapy if the treatment is for a diagnosis listed in the DSM. That’s the main point that I wanted to make, but there’s still a lot to say on this topic.

If almost everything is being called “ABA” then what is actual ABA? And why do Autistic adults say it is abusive? What sort of warning signs should parents be watching for? What is harmful about certain practices? Those are a lot of questions to answer, but I will do my best. Bear in mind that I’m not a therapist — ABA or otherwise — and I’m not a parent. I’m one Autistic adult, one person coping with therapy-induced PTSD, one person exhausted by the all-out war I see every day between people like me and people who love people like me, one person who wants to see a better world for everyone (but, I admit, especially for Autistic people.)

ABA was developed by Dr. Ivar Lovaas. As a 1965 Life Magazine article explains, the core theory of ABA was that a therapist, “forcing a change in a child’s outward behavior” would, “effect an inward psychological change.” The article says, “Lovaas feels that by I) holding any mentally crippled child accountable for his behavior and 2) forcing him to act normal, he can push the child toward normality.”

Much has changed, but this core premise of Lovaas’ work remains solid. ABA’s core belief is that forty hours per week of therapy geared toward making a child externally appear as “normal” as possible will “fix the brokenness” inside that made the child behave that way. ABA believes in an extreme form of “fake it until you make it,” and because it is behaviorism at its most pure — that is, a psychological science that treats internal processes as irrelevant to function (Lovaas said, “you have to put out the fire first before you worry how it started”) — it treats behavior as meaningless and unwanted actions rather than as communication.

This approach is troubling for many reasons.

ABA strongly emphasizes the importance of intensive, saturated therapy and insists that it is crucial to get 40 hours a week of therapy for very young children. Think for a moment how exhausted you, a grown adult, are after 40 hours of work in a week and you will begin to understand why we get so concerned about putting a three-year-old child through such a grueling schedule. Being Autistic doesn’t give a three-year-old child superpowers of endurance. Forty hours a week of ABA is not just expensive, it is painfully exhausting. ABA maintains a schedule like this with the intention of breaking down a child’s resistance and will.

I understand that you are afraid for your child. Their future is unknown. You are worried about their ability to live a fulfilled life. You are worried about their ability to have self-supporting work and be taken care of after you pass on. And I understand that this fear, coupled with a deep desire to give your child the best you can give them, can lead you to accept the ABA attitude of “more is better.” But stop a moment and think about the capacity for sustained focus of the average three-year-old and consider what a therapy that tries to double (or more) that capacity is doing to a child. If you stress a child out or even traumatize them with extreme therapies, you are paradoxically increasing the chances of incapacitating PTSD in the child’s future. Yes, you want your child to develop as much as they are able to develop and you want them to enjoy their life and hopefully provide for themselves, but exhaustion and trauma are not going to aid those sorts of development.

Worse than the exhaustion of so many hours of therapy, though, is the heavy focus on making a child “indistinguishable from his peers.” The main goal of ABA is to make a child LOOK normal. This is insidious for a few reasons. first, it is the best way to get the parents to continue to co-operate with the therapists for many years. Of course you are going to be moved to tears if the therapist gets your child to look you in the eye or say “Mommy” to you or sit at the table and eat a meal without fidgeting or melting down. Of course you will feel like the therapist is making progress and healing your child. That is a very natural response. So you will see the progress and you will want to continue with ABA therapy and you will be very defensive when adults Autistics online suggest that what is happening in your home might be a bad thing. What was bad were fights every mealtime. What was bad was never hearing your child’s voice. What was bad were the judgmental or pitying stares you and your child got when you went out in public and people saw your child spinning around or flapping her hands or becoming so anxious you were forced to leave your groceries unpurchased and flee the store.

But if your child is getting classic ABA therapy, what you are seeing is an illusion. And what looks like progress is happening at the expense of the child’s sense of self, comfort, feelings of safety, ability to love who they are, stress levels, and more. The outward appearance is of improvement, but with classic ABA therapy, that outward improvement is married to a dramatic increase in internal anxiety and suffering.

ABA therapists are trained to find out what your child loves the most and hold it ransom. Often, it’s food. If your therapist suggests withholding food as a form of behavioral therapy, run screaming. That is harmful. If your child’s therapist will not allow you to remain in the room during a session (they will usually tell you that your presence will be a distraction that will keep your child focused on you instead of on the therapy they need to be paying attention to) that is a big warning sign. If you are able to witness your child’s therapy sessions and your child is spending a lot of time crying or going limp or flopping on the floor or showing signs you recognize as indicators of anxiety or fear, beware the therapy. If the therapist insists on pushing forward with the therapy when your child is crying or going limp instead of giving your child recovery time, run screaming. Therapy that trades your child’s sense of safety in the present for a promise of future progress is exactly the sort of thing that Autistic adults mean when they talk about abusive therapy.

Therapy should make your child better, not traumatize them, possibly for many years, potentially for the rest of their life. A therapist might tell you that “a little crying” is a normal thing, but I was once an Autistic child and I can tell you that being pushed repeatedly to the point of tears with zero sense of personal power and knowing that the only way to get the repeated torment to end was to comply with everything that was asked of me, no matter how painful, no matter how uneasy it made me feel, no matter how unreasonable the request seemed, knowing that I had no way out of a repeat of the torment again and again for what felt like it would be the rest of my life was traumatizing to such a degree that I still carry emotional scars decades later. It doesn’t matter whether the perpetrator is a therapist, a teacher, a parent, or an age-peer: bullying is bullying.

In my opinion, the goal of therapy should be to help the child live a better, happier, more functional life. Taking away things like hand flapping or spinning is not done to help the child. It is done because the people around the child are uncomfortable with or embarrassed by those behaviors. But those are coping behaviors for the child. It is very important to question why a child engages in the behaviors they do. It is very wrong to seek to train away those behaviors without understanding that they are the child’s means of self-regulation. When considering whether you have made a wise choice in what therapy you are providing your child or not, you want to always remember a few cardinal rules: behavior is communication and/or a means of self-regulation. Communication is more important than speech. Human connection is more important than forced eye contact. Trust is easy to shatter and painfully difficult to re-build. It is more important for a child to be comfortable and functional than to “look normal.”

Work on things like anxiety and sensory issues first. Work on getting better sleep (both you and your child). Things like eye contact can come later, much later, and only if your child is comfortable with them. There are work-arounds. Lots of people fake eye contact. Lots of people have good lives with minimal or no eye contact. But forcing a child to do something that is deeply painful and distressing for no reason other than to make them look more normal is not just unnecessary, it is cruel.

I live two blocks from a behavioral clinic and I frequently walk several blocks out of my way to avoid walking past it because of the kinds of things I have seen when walking past the clinic. Let me tell you about the last thing I saw there, the thing that made me decide that I would rather walk an extra half-mile than risk seeing more ABA therapy on the sidewalk in front of the clinic.

A mother and father came out of the clinic with a little girl, around 7 years old by my best guess. Mother said, “Janie (not the actual name), look at me.” Janie didn’t look at her mother. The mother said to the father, “you know what to do,” and the father took hold of Janie and turned her head toward mother, saying, “look at your mother, Janie.” Janie resisted, turning her head away and trying to pull out of her father’s hands.

Mother crouched down and Father lifted Janie’s whole body up, laying her across Mother’s knee, face up. “Look at your mother, Janie,” father said. “Look at me, Janie,” Mother said. Janie began to whimper. Her body was as stiff as a board. Father held her body firm and Mother took hold of Janie’s head, “look at me, Janie,” Mother said.

I was glued to the sidewalk. I didn’t want to see any more but I couldn’t look away, couldn’t walk away. Janie began to moan and thrash her body. Father’s hands held her body steady as she kicked and flailed. Mother’s hands held Janie’s head steady. Both kept urging Janie to look at her mother. Janie’s moans turned to screams but neither parent let her go.

Finally, Janie’s entire body went limp with defeat. She apparently made eye contact because Mother and Father began to lavish praise on her. “Good girl, Janie. Good eye contact. Good girl. Let’s get some ice cream now.” Janie’s limp body slid to the sidewalk where she lay, sobbing. Father picked her up and carried her to the car, the whole way praising her submission. “Good eye contact, Janie.”

a drawing of eyes looking away with the caption forced eye contact hinders human contact

(This image – a drawing of eyes looking away with the caption
“Forced eye contact hinders human contact” – is a sticker and is also
available as a light t-shirt or dark t-shirt in adult and children’s sizes.)

What did Janie learn that day? I’ll give you a hint: it was not that people are more trusting of those who make good eye contact. It was not that she will appear more normal and thus fit into society better if she makes good eye contact. It wasn’t even that Mom really loves it when Janie connects with her through the eyes like that.

Janie learned that adults can have whatever they want from her, even if it hurts and even if they have to hurt her to get it. Janie learned that her body does not belong to her and that she has to give others access to it at any time, for any reason, even if she wasn’t doing anything that could hurt herself or others. Janie learned that there is no point in resisting and that it is her job to let others do what they want with her body, no matter how uncomfortable it makes her.

You may think I’m exaggerating or making this out to be more extreme than it is, but stop for a moment and imagine years of this therapy. Forty hours a week of being told to touch her nose and make eye contact and have quiet hands and sit still. A hundred and sixty hours a month of being restrained and punished when she doesn’t want to touch her nose and being given candy and praise when she does touch her nose for the 90,000th time. Nearly two thousand hours a year of being explicitly taught that she does not own her body and she does not have the right to move it in ways that feel comfortable and safe to her. How many years will she be in therapy? How many years will she be taught to be a good girl? To touch her nose on command? To make eye contact on demand? Graduating to hugs, she will be taught that she is required to hug any adult who wants a hug from her. She will be punished when she does not hug and praised and fed when she does.

And who will protect her from the predator who wants to hug her? Who will teach her that she is only required to yield her bodily autonomy for her parents and therapists but not for strangers? What if the predator turns out to be one of her therapists or parents? How will she resist abuse when she has had so many hours of training in submission? Therapy is an investment in the future, but ABA therapy is creating a future for Janie of being the world’s doormat. Is that the future Janie’s parents want for her?

If your child’s therapist believes it is more important for your child to comply with every command than to have any control at all over his or her body, run screaming. And don’t forget that a layer of training does not change the underlying neurology. ABA uses the same methods and theories as dog training and if I train my dog to shake hands, it doesn’t make him more human. It just makes him a dog who can shake hands. Similarly, if you train an Autistic to make eye contact and not flap their hands and say “I love you, too” and stay on task, it just makes them into an Autistic who can fake being not-autistic with some relative measure of success. Underneath the performance is still an Autistic brain and an Autistic nervous system and it is very important to remember that. Being trained to hide any reaction to painful noises, smells, lights, and feelings doesn’t make the pain go away. Imagine years of living with pain that you have been trained to hide. How long would it last before you broke down? Some Autistics last an amazingly long time before they break down and burn out.

And intensive ABA therapy will also teach a child that there is something fundamentally wrong and unacceptable about who they are. Not only is that child trained to look normal, they are trained to hate who they are inside. They are trained to hate who they are and hide who they are. They will work very hard to hide who they are, because they have learned to hate who they are. And as a result, they will push themselves to the brink of destruction. And when they finally crumble from years of hiding their sensory pain and years of performing their social scripts and blaming themselves every time a script doesn’t carry them successfully through a social situation, they will be angry at themselves and blame themselves for their nervous breakdown and autistic burn-out.

All those years of ABA therapy will have taught them that they are fundamentally wrong and broken; that they are required to do everything authority demands of them (whether it’s right or wrong for them); that they are always the one at fault when anything social goes wrong; that they get love, praise, and their basic survival needs met so long as they can hide any trace of autism from others; that what they want doesn’t matter.

Now you know what to watch for. Your child’s therapist may use the term “ABA” in order to get paid, but they might not be doing these harmful, degrading, abusive things to your child at all. If your child’s therapist is respecting your child, not trying to break down the child’s sense of self and body-ownership, treating behavior as communication rather than pointless motions that need to be trained away, valuing speech but not at the expense of communication, giving your child breaks to recover and not over-taxing their limited focusing abilities . . . then they can call their therapy anything they want to, but it is not ABA. (And hold on to that therapist! They are golden!)

And I hope that the next time you hear an Autistic adult say that ABA is abuse, you are compassionate. Remember the suffering so many of us endured. Know that we say those things because we love your children and want to help them. We do not say them because we hate you and want to call you abusers. We don’t hate you at all and we want to help you. Sometimes we are clumsy in how we go about it, because, well, we are Autistic and communication difficulties are part of that package. But know that when we attack ABA, we are not intending to attack you. We want your child to sleep through the night and laugh with joy and become toilet trained (on whatever schedule their bodies can handle — don’t forget that we tend to be late bloomers), and have a healthy, happy, productive, love-filled life.

We want you to rejoice in parenting and connect with your children on a deep and meaningful level. When an Autistic adult says “ABA is abuse,” you might be tempted to hear, “you are abusing your child.” But that is not what we are saying. Next time you hear an Autistic adult say “ABA is abuse,” please hear those words as, “I love you and your child. Be careful! There are unscrupulous people out there who will try to convert the fear you feel for your child’s future into money in their pocket at the cost of your child’s well-being.”

And if you are a therapist and you are upset when we say “ABA is abuse”, know that we are not talking about you . . . unless you are using shock punishments or making children endure long hours of arduous therapy beyond their ability to cope or teaching children that they do not have the right to say who can have access to intimacy with their body or not (and forced eye contact is a particularly nasty violation of a person’s control over their bodily intimacy.) If you are not the kind of therapist who we are talking about when we talk about the harm of therapy, then we are not talking about you! Thank you for being one of the good guys. We need more like you. Teach others what you know. Spread the love and help change the world, please!

Thank you for reading all of this. I know it was a lot of words, but this is such an important topic. The children are the future and I don’t have words to explain how painful it is when I see Autistic adults being verbally bullied and abused because they are trying to help the children by helping parents to understand more about the lived experience of autism and more about the kinds of things that can be very harmful to Autistic lives. I had over a decade of therapy in my childhood and much of it was not good therapy and I am explicitly damaged because of it. When I say ABA is abuse — when we Autistic adults say ABA is abuse — we are speaking from a collective wisdom gained through painful experiences that have left lasting scars on us. We don’t want anyone else to have to go through the pain we have gone through. Please respect where we are coming from and please do not add to the trauma by attacking us for trying to help others. Thank you.

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Edited to add: if you would like to see some video examples of helpful vs. harmful therapies, check out this blog post I made a month later on that topic:

Helpful vs. Harmful Therapies: What Do They Look Like?

46 Comments

  1. Kate

    Outstanding. So much so that I had waves of nausea happening while I read. It brought up so much I am unable to articulate. Our generation copped a lot; it pains me to my core that it still happens. Thank you. 🙂

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you, Kate. It’s a tough topic to write about as well as to read about, let alone to experience.

  2. Rachel stone

    Thank you for this. I am a parent of a child with autism and I did have him in intensive ABA 40 hrs a week. What they did with him rarely caused him to have meltdowns but it was tiresome for all of us. He made many improvements, ie: using eating utensils, not running away from us when we were outside or in public, not banging blunt objects onto his teeth, ect…

    Most of the behaviors we were addressing were harmful or dangerous. Luckily for us, my son loves eye contact, loves to cuddle and play. His therapists never forced him to participate. They would allow him to self calm as long as it wasn’t harmful to himself, and would attempt to continue with the session when he was ready. This group of therapists were from the Wisconsin Early Autism Project and they are amazing.

    I would love to hear my son use speech to communicate, or in anyway that is universal and not just specific to me.
    I would love to see him develop meaningful relationships with his peers and be capable of sitting through academics, or even a movie but sadly, he is also affected with hyper kinetic syndrome and I’m convinced that he has apraxia as well as some extreme sensory needs, and with that I’ve come to accept that he will likely need extensive support throughout his life. I can hope that he will be independent but I have to be realistic as well.

    Thank you for this article. As a parent, this sort of input from someone whom has similar struggles as my child holds more value and is more meaningful than what any therapist or doctor has to say. Again thank you for this.

  3. Erin Bunyea

    I loved your article. I’ve wondered for a while why autistic adults seemed to so often hate ABA. I’ve worked in ABA for a few years and am currently in grad school to become a BCBA. I’ve never seen any of the things you mentioned, except for the nose touching (geesh, that’s old for everyone!) and the eye contact. However I saw the eye contact much more a long time ago when I worked at a summer camp for children with autism and their siblings. I’ve never seen the point of forcing eye contact since so many people I know avoid extended eye contact; also, they’re not my eyes!
    So far I’ve only seen good come from ABA, and no tears. Lots of working on things that they learn in school (colors, homework, reading, etc) and some social skills, but I’ve never seen a breakdown, or even close to one. Everything I’ve seen and participated in seemed like a big play session with secret learning going on. I’m not saying you’re wrong, because you’re not! What you described on that sidewalk is appalling. I’m just commenting to let you know that I personally haven’t seen that, but you better believe I will be on the lookout!
    I’m still going to become a BCBA. But I will never promote that kind of ABA. I’m going to read more about this, so I have a better and wider knowledge of what is NOT okay with ABA. I’m so sorry for what happened to you in your childhood. That’s not okay.
    Thank you again for writing this! Also, if you feel like recommending any books I’d love to read them! And maybe therapies that are okay?

    • unstrangemind

      I’m so glad to hear that you’re really looking at things as you head toward becoming a BCBA.

      What do you plan to do when (not if, because it *will* happen at some point) your client doesn’t want to point to green and keeps getting up from the table and walking away?

      • Andrea

        A am a BCBA and I’ll answer your question: I’d let him walk away. My client can choose to stay or to leave. For example I’d provide one of his favorite toys to play with. If this toy won’t be enough reinforcing to play with my client seems to tell me that he has enough and needs a break. Then he’ll get his break. I am not the one who is about to force a child to (for example) point to green. I would use force only if there’s an imminent danger (for him or others) . Then, yes, but only then.

        • unstrangemind

          A toy for him to play with while he points to green or a toy sitting out of reach that he can play with as a reward after he has touched green?

          What if he never wants to work with you at all and refuses from the moment you show up until your time is up? (I have seen children do exactly this — completely refuse to work with an evaluator or educator even though they are more than capable of doing the work that is being asked of them.) What happens then?

          • Colleen

            What would you reccomend? I’m planning on being an occupational therapist in pediatrics and I love the open conversations and an oppertunity to learn from the community (who knows best 🙂 ) thanks for your patience and devotion!

          • unstrangemind

            Obviously I would recommend not practicing ABA on children.

            http://unstrangemind.com/what-does-helpful-vs-harmful-therapy-look-like/

          • unstrangemind

            Colleen:

            Obviously my answer was flippant, but I actually thought the other BCBAs would return to answer those questions. They had an opportunity to teach all of us that their ABA is “not like the ABA you describe” and future BCBAs would have had a chance to learn from them, but they have chosen not to return and answer these questions.

            Now I apologize for giving you a flippant answer, because no one has answered your question. I have made a note on my blogs-to-write queue to address your question and ones similar to it at some point in the future. I am pretty much always way behind on my blogging to-do list (and every other list in my life), but you are on the list now so I will eventually address it and I’m sorry for not giving you a better answer right now.

            Maybe those other BCBAs will surprise us and come back to answer your questions and mine.

            Be well,
            Sparrow

          • Dave

            Hi, to answer that question we would take a step back and put a hold on task demands and make sure that the child was a willing participant. We would make the therapist and teaching area fun for them so they wouldn’t want to walk away. And of course we would then use that as an opportunity to teach the child to ask for a break, negotiate, etc depending on their skill level. All of that should be done before we ask them to point to green.

      • Deus

        I can tell you what I would do as a professional. I would use a reinforcer. If the reinforcer didn’t work, then I would increase the reinforcer. If he flat out refuses to work with me, then I would withhold non-food related reinforcers or take away things that he enjoys until he complies and at least attempts to engage in the activity.
        Go a head, call it abuse if you want. It’s not. Using extreme yet non-invasive procedures to teach him life-saving skills for independence (especially with the color Green, can you say TRAFFIC LIGHT) is perfectly acceptable by my standards. I would rather he get PTSD than be ran over by a car in traffic one day because I didn’t push him hard enough. Or for that matter, wind up institutionalized because I didn’t push him hard enough to excel at millions of skills for independence.
        NOW, what I would not do is teach pointless skills of social importance, like eye contact or that he has to play a specific way on the playground. I just lost a job over my ethical argument with regards to this. He can be who he wants to be, how he wants to be, but he WILL try his hardest to support himself.
        SO for skills of independence, so he can be as independent as possible, outside of physical punishment, I have no qualms with extreme coercion (of course, within their ability). He (and the autistic) community can hate me all they want when they grow up. Heroes rarely get thanked by the ones they try to save. If they don’t understand that they have to struggle to progress so they can take care of themselves as much as possible, then that’s their problem. I have my own moral convictions that I stand up for, and I’m proud of that. I don’t agree with autistic adults on a lot of issues, but I also think most therapists and schools (ESPECIALLY the public schools) are focusing on pointlessly torturous skills that don’t help autistics be more independent.
        This whole argument is not black and white. It’s shades of gray.

  4. Brooke

    Sparrow/Colleen, I’m not a BCBA but a parent. My son did intensive ABA therapy as a pre-schooler and continues to receive ABA at school. I work as a class assistant in a school, though currently not with any autistic students.

    For your hypothetical student who is asked to ‘point to green’
    I’d look at where the child is going to. I might follow the student, or I might relocate to the vicinity. I’d take my cue from the student. I’d also look at why I want the child to point to green in the first place. Am I teaching the child green or testing to find out if the colour is known? Assuming that ‘pointing to green ‘ is desperately needed for some reason, I’d question if there were other ways the same task could be presented.

    Probably unrelated, but with a student I’m working with currently (NT, but has challenges in other areas) is very behind in his work. I’ve started to get him to dictate his answers to me, I write them down as a scribe for him, including errors and self-correction. I think he is more capable than the work that is assigned to him and he’s bored to tears.

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you, Brooke. Great answer! Personalizing education and helping a student get past their weaknesses to allow their strengths to shine is so important.

  5. Dave

    Thanks for opening up the conversation. I would love to let your readers know that the goal of ABA is not as you said to make anyone appear normal. The purpose is to help individuals achieve meaningful, socially significant outcomes. Whether that means making friends, living independently, getting a job, attending school in a less restrictive environment…based not on what I as a BCBA want but on what is meaningful to the children and families who I work with.

    You also said something along the lines of ABA says your child should get 40 hours a week. The evidence shows that the best outcomes in early intervention come from a 40 hour per week treatment plan. This is not at all 40 hours a week of table time. In that 40 hours a child could learn language, play skills, motor skills, adaptive living and self help skills, and social skills. Most if not all would be in the context of play and activities that they would be doing anyway…eating meals, getting dressed, toileting, playing with friends at a playground, going to the store, et cetera.

    If anyone has a specific complaint about a BCBA or behavior technician please go to BACB.COM to file a complaint. We are proud to hold each other accountable.

    I am honored to have the job that I have and to help people get what they want and avoid what they don’t want. I hope your readers don’t get discouraged from looking into all options for their children and making their own decision.

  6. Julie

    This is heartbreaking and after so much time spent with my autistic niece I am so happy her mom pulled her out of ABA at a young age. ABA is cruel and does not celebrate a child’s uniqueness; after all, what is ‘normal’? Who wants to be normal anyway? Parents need to let you of this self-satisfying need to have society think their child is normal. Instead they should be learning and teaching their kids new communication tools like RPM and spelling to communicate so kids can tell them they love them instead of just making eye contact with them! Well written, well worth reading.

    • Dave

      I see my replies are still awaiting moderation but other replies are being posted…is there a reason you are not posting my replies about the purpose of ABA and response to your call for BCBAs to answer your question? I want your readers to be informed from both sides of the issue. Thanks.

  7. Hayley

    This is beautifully written and reflects how I feel about ABA. I am the mother of a little girl with Asperger’s and suspect I have Asperger’s myself (although I’m undiagnosed and learned very early on to hide my traits for fear of reprisal). I only recently read about ABA in a book called Neurotribes by Steve Silberman and I took to Facebook to share my negative views. I had an intelligent friend (whom I respect a lot) who is a teacher defending ABA as it has helped children in her classes. Another friend (who is diagnosed with autism) shared this link to help me and the other lady see exactly what ABA is and how people on the spectrum view it. I found this painful to read, it hurts my heart that people are so keen to force people with autism to connect with the world at their neurotypical level with no regard for the feelings or personality of the individual. My daughter is a beautiful soul, she connects with and communicates with the world in her own wonderful way. Neurotypical people may not always understand it, but she doesn’t understand always their way of communicating either so that’s okay with us!
    Thank you for posting this.

    • Hayley

      Apologies for how poorly written this reply is. It’s been a long day and I didn’t think to proof-read until after I’d clicked “send”!

  8. unstrangemind

    Dave,

    I didn’t let your long comment out of the moderation queue because it did not add to the conversation. All you did was repeat the things I had already addressed and debunked in my article. Repeating the same thing again and again doesn’t make it more true.

    Because you decided to try to use my blog to preach that ABA is not at all what I said it is, I can’t let any of your comments out of moderation. Letting one of your comments out of moderation would allow you to comment as much as you wanted and I already spend too much time chasing down spam on this blog.

    I will quote the one comment you made which actually addressed the question, though, instead of just preaching to us all that we have no idea what ABA realy is.

    Dave wrote:
    “Hi, to answer that question we would take a step back and put a hold on task demands and make sure that the child was a willing participant. We would make the therapist and teaching area fun for them so they wouldn’t want to walk away. And of course we would then use that as an opportunity to teach the child to ask for a break, negotiate, etc depending on their skill level. All of that should be done before we ask them to point to green.”

    A child cannot give consent. It is a farce to say that you wait to make sure a child is a willing participant in ABA because the whole point of ABA is to wear down a child’s resistance until he complies with the 40 hours a week program.

    There are going to be some children for whom you can *never* make it fun. I was one of those children. I threw paint on adults, ruining their clothes. I threw flour on an adult. I kicked and bit. If I decided I didn’t like an adult — and it only took me a moment to decide — there was absolutely nothing that adult could do to win me over. They were forever tainted and the most productive thing they could do would be to resign and let some other adult take over, hoping that I didn’t hate that adult, too.

    Adults I liked could get amazing results from me that truly reflected my abilities. Adults I hated — and that was most of them — could get nothing from me but avoidance if I could and attacks if I could not.

    ABA harms children like I was.

    I know, because I was there.

    And here I am, at age 50, still struggling to recover.

    I am far from being the only Autistic who behaved as a child the way I did.

    ABA has no healthy methods for “making it fun” for a child who firmly hates the person administering it.

    But just because another child complies without fighting, that does not mean that they are not also being harmed by ABA. All children who go through ABA are being taught compliance. Those who already comply are having their compliance reinforced.

    You teach a child to ask for a break and negotiate. Do you also teach them that “no means no” or do you use negotiation as a toehold to manipulate them into “having fun” so they comply anyway? You do realize that more than one of the people who sexually abused me in the past used negotiation and “making it fun” to get me to let them use my body?

    What if a child has a hard and firm no to participating at all with the therapist? Does ABA teach to respect their no and teach them how important their autonomy is? Or does it teach how to ask for a break and negotiate when and how to do the things the child doesn’t want to do at all?

    Just because my abuser let me take breaks and took a different position when I said their body weight was crushing me doesn’t mean that they were making it fun for me or negotiating or giving consent.

    A child cannot give consent to comply with things they do not want to do. A child — any child of any neurology — has not yet developed the skills of establishing and defending boundaries or negotiating how they are treated.

    • Dave

      Thanks for the reply. It’s your blog so of course you decide what gets posted and what doesn’t. It looks like you have no problem posting replies that are favorable to your perspective.
      I can’t argue with your own experience and am truly sad that your experience gave my profession a bad name.
      To answer your questions you can google search ‘demand fading’ and ‘an ethical alternative to escape extinction’ to see a video and read about modern procedures that work with a learner’s motivation so that they can learn skills without hating the process. ABA is always evolving.

    • Kara

      Thank you for sharing your views. I have a couple of concerns about your point here however:
      “But just because another child complies without fighting, that does not mean that they are not also being harmed by ABA. All children who go through ABA are being taught compliance. Those who already comply are having their compliance reinforced.”

      It can be argued that every single child, neurotypical, a child with autism, a child with autism with ABA or without ABA are taught compliance and have their compliance reinforced. For any mother who tells their child “No, don’t do that!” as the child reaches for something sharp and then praises them for leaving the item alone is using behavioral principles. Compliance is a fundamental goal for almost every family worldwide even though ‘compliance’ as a word can be misconstrued. ABA is not unique in teaching compliance in children. The vast majority of parents (with the exception of parents with children who will absolutely NOT listen to any instruction/direction/request at any point) teaches compliance (if ‘unknowingly’) on a consistent basis.

      • unstrangemind

        Kara, you are taking the general term “compliance” and inserting it into what I am saying about “compliance therapy” which is something entirely different. You might want to re-read my essay in order to help you understand the difference between the general compliance that we are all subject to as part of the unwritten social contract and the compliance therapies that are so destructive to human beings.

        To use your example as a teaching moment: What you describe is general good parenting. If that same scenario were designed as discrete trials using compliance therapy, it would look more like this:

        The child is set on a mattress on a table in the middle of an otherwise empty room. A sharp object is placed near the child. As soon as the child moves toward or reaches for the sharp object, the therapist surprises the child by making a loud sound behind his back by striking a suspended steel bar with a hammer. Every time the child reaches for or moves toward the sharp object, the loud sound is repeated and the child cries and shows fear. After several such pairings of the two stimuli, the child is presented with the sharp object. Upon seeing the object, the child begins crying and crawling away from it because he has come to associate the sharp object with the loud noise. As soon as the child has the reaction to only the sharp object, the need for the loud noise can be said to have been extinguished.

        I did not make up this example. This was an experiment published in 1920 and designed to see of operant conditioning could cause a healthy baby to develop a phobia. In the actual experiment, a white rat was used rather than a sharp object.

        Compliance therapy is designed around discrete trials meant to use operant conditioning to train a child to behave and perform in particular ways using either aversives (spraying vinegar in the mouth, shouting, electro-shock, slapping) or rewards (m&ms, stickers, gummy bears, etc.) or both to shape the child’s behavior.

        In the case of the “Little Albert” experiment, textbooks will tell you that no one could do an experiment like that today because it is unethical. That is true . . . . except when the subject is an Autistic child, in which case you will find therapists staunchly defending using any means necessary because they believe that compliance is more important than the child’s discomfort or even traumatization.

        You will even find professionals arguing that the Autistic child can’t be traumatized. Last year the FDA convened to discuss whether they should allow electro-shock punishment of Autistic children and teens to continue or not. They actually debated whether Autistic people genuinely feel pain or not. They sat there and debated whether we feel pain, as if it were some abstract philosophical discussion and not a life-or-death matter of abused children. Because those children are Autistic.

        So, no. When you use the word “compliance” you are not talking about the same thing that I am talking about when I use the word “compliance training.” Not at all the same word.

        I hope you will re-read my essay and re-read your comment on it and decide if you truly do stand by what you have said here or not. And I deeply hope you choose to retract your statement after you have re-considered things. Thank you.

  9. Alexandra Forshaw

    I started school at the end of the 1970’s. I wouldn’t have met the criteria of the time for an autism diagnosis even if anyone had thought to assess my unusually pronounced “shyness” and social difficulties because I did not exhibit developmental delays. So I was never subjected to therapy.

    Except that the school environment was about 35 hours a week of required obedience and compliance under the banner of discipline, backed up by the threat of corporal punishment. You did as you were told. You spoke when spoken to, you were seen and not heard. You never questioned authority. You complied or you were made an example of: public humiliation, verbal abuse and at times physical abuse too.

    It didn’t need to carry a name like ABA, it didn’t need to be considered therapy for it to be seen as acceptable by parents. Still today I see articles calling for the return of the cane in schools, calling to bring back this draconian discipline. There are still a lot of people out there who believe that forcing children to be compliant, to make all the right noises and follow the rules will somehow produce a steady stream of model citizens. Instead it produces people like me who struggle to cope with constant anxiety and depression, who have days when the effects of what we experienced mean we can barely function.

  10. Danielle Atkinson

    My grandson is on a waiting list for ABA therapy–it’s been 7 months of what we were told would be an approximate 9 month wait. I’m eager to get this therapy started but I’m feeling very lucky to have read this article prior to his starting. Naturally, I feel sadness for children who have endured this abuse for what only seems to aiding parents and NTs rather than the communicably-challenged toddler the therapy was sought after in the first place. Selfishness in its most evil form if you ask me. In addition, I feel lucky after reading this article so that if and when my grandsons number is up I am an ever-more informed advocate and have the knowledge to know what practices to question and demand clarification of any lessons or techniques that stray from the goals of the compassionate teachings of life skills for sole purpose of aiding my grandson (and not ANYONE else) with his existence in our cruel cookie cutter existence of today’s norms. I will read this every day until I know it word for word so to not allow this to happen to my heart, my Talon. He’s my whole heart…an important member of our society who has tons to offer us all and as his advocate I won’t allow him to be dictated by bad BCBAs who would be best-suited in positions at Pits and Parolees. Thank you for this most valuable share!

    • unstrangemind

      Your grandson is fortunate to have you on his side and alert. There are good therapists out there and good therapies. There’s an awful lot of preying on fears and damaging therapies and therapists out there, too, so it’s crucial to stay aware of what is happening and protect your grandson. Good on you for getting prepared for things ahead of time.

  11. Ann

    Hi,
    I am a mother of 11 year old girl with autism. I am just looking into ABA and stumbled on this blog. Thank you for providing the ‘insider scoop’. This is very eye opening. My daughter does this running back and forth with hand flapping and I would love to find out why. What way would you suggest instead of ABA?

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you for writing. The answer to your question is so huge that I added it to my queue of things to blog about. I’ll come back here and drop a note to you when the blog post goes live.

      • Kay

        I too would love to hear about what you think is a better alternative to ABA. I am actually considering a career in behavior therapy and have a friend who is an amazing and highly ethical and compassionate ABA therapist, but I have heard so many mixed reviews about ABA that I am concerned about it.

        • unstrangemind

          That’s a short question with a long answer because there isn’t, to my knowledge, a structured and named therapy I can point you to. I have one essay that answers a tiny piece of the question, but answering in full would require, at the minimum, a full-length book. I am currently looking into a therapeutic modality I have strong positive feelings about but I’m not ready to commit yet.

          In the meantime, here’s the essay I mentioned:

          http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2017/04/if-not-aba-then-what.html

  12. Faylyn

    Thank you for this! We just got off the waiting list to start ABA with my son. After two meetings at my home, they called and told me that my son would have to do in center ABA instead of in home ABA because apparently ALL of their staff are allergic to cats (we have seven). All of them. I felt rejected and upset.

    Then I read this post.

    I’m thinking the real reason for wanting him to go center based is because of my boundaries I set up in the first two meetings. No forcing him to do something, no stopping him from stimming or self calming unless he is hurting himself or others, no withholding things if he doesn’t do what they want, etc. So basically I object to the majority of the treatment process.

    I will not be sending him there. Over my dead body. My son is wonderful the way he is. He is brilliant, very well behaved (for his age in general, not just for an autistic kid), creative, funny, loving, cuddly, and just plain fun. I only want him to be potty trained before starting Kindy in the fall. Forty hours a week seems too much, and forty hours a week of people acting like he needs to be changed is never going to happen, as long as I’m alive and kicking. My job is to protect my children and help them become great people. They’re already great people.

    So again, thank you so much for this. I’m about to read your other posts to see if there is a therapy that might work for him, otherwise we will just stick to his preschool program as it has helped him immensely and they let him be him.

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you for sharing! You are so right: your job is to protect your children and help them grow into the great people they already are. Good for you for setting strong boundaries to protect your children and good for you for keeping an eye on what is happening with your children.

      I’m actually planning to write something later this week about what to do instead of ABA because I’ve been getting that question a lot lately. I’ve made a note to return to as many of those requests/mentions, including this one, with a link after I’ve written it.

      Stay the course and keep doing what you’re doing: parenting from a place of love. Fear leaves one open to manipulation and love is like a sun that burns away those clouds of doubt and provides clear skies and informed insights. I love your love; it shines through every word you write.

      Potty training is a big deal and when kindergarten age rolls around, it can seem make-or-break as far as staying on track with the age-connected milestones. I do know Autistics who are integrated in mainstream schools at various grade levels while wearing diapers. The oldest I know, off hand, is around 12 years old, though most are in kindergarten or first grade. I have seen Autistics accomplish toilet training at a variety of ages, including after age 7.

      Of course everyone wants a kid out of diapers as soon as possible because it’s cheaper and easier on everyone to use the toilet.

      But ABA toilet training is shaped around the theories of LeBlanc and Carr which are shaped around the theories of Azrin and Foxx. This is the original model for professional toilet training of those with developmental disabilities:

      https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1310676/pdf/jaba00072-0020.pdf

      While many things have changed and toilet training no longer looks exactly like what is described in this article, it still follows the same general pattern:

      Educate about the toilet
      Show dolls using the toilet
      Isolate the child and restrict him/her to a toilet area for 8 hours
      Push fluids
      Reward toilet success
      Overcorrect toilet failure

      I know bright, delightful children who are wracked with anxieties because of this sort of toilet training.

      We live in a society where wearing diapers is treated as something to be ashamed of and I think that’s a useless stigma that our culture needs to shed. People are ready when they are ready and sometimes people need diapers again after having been out of them for decades. The ADA and IDEA (apologies if you’re not in the U.S. My knowledge and experience tends to be U.S.-centric because that’s where I’ve spent the last half century.) fight for your child’s right to go to kindergarten even if he is not toilet trained by the time school starts.

      We’re seeing a lot of change right now and a new secretary of education who seems unaware of what IDEA even is or how it’s administered. In a time of confusion and flux like this, you might be in for a big battle, but your son has a federally protected right to a free, appropriate education in a least restrictive environment, with an IEP to support his needs …. including hygiene needs related to diapering if that is still an issue when school starts.

      Don’t let the system deny him what he has a right to.

      And stay strong with your boundaries. Protecting, nurturing, and providing for an Autistic child is a huge job, as you already know. You are starting off on the right track with love and attention. Stay strong for the struggles that may come.

  13. Tate McGhee

    I sorry to hear Applied Behavior Analysis was so “abusive.” From my understanding, there is an extensive Code of Ethics Board Certified Behavior Analysts (BCBAs) must adhere by in their practice. One major area is centered around informed consent. The permission to identify the functions maintaining socially significant behavior that might be limiting or interfering someone before moving forward with treatment. If that permission is not gathered first, there is no treatment. In 1968, published in the first Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis (JABA) Bear Wolf & Risley originated ABA seeking seeking to define seven dimensions that Applied Behavior Analysis is centered around. This was the birth of ABA. I would encourage you to find and read it. Applied Behavior Analysis appears to be a science that can be easily misunderstood and even more dangerously misused. Again my apologies for your experience and your viewpoint of ABA as it has been tarnished. You might consider those you were in contact ineffectively implementing the concepts and principles of Applied Behavior Analysis and therefore establishing your experience. There is so much more to Applied Behavior Analysis I’d invite you to discover and when implemented effectively can make tremendous changes with all human behavior and beyond.

  14. Katie

    This is so insightful. As an ABA therapist who also feels I am a huge supporter of the autistic community, I have been struggling to figure out how I feel about myself when I hear that ABA is abuse.

    Within my company, within my clients, I see all different kinds of therapists. Realistically, our BCBA doesn’t know how we act when he isn’t there. It’s up to the parents to report and us to be good people. I hear from my company that I’m one of the best RBTs we have. I have days where I don’t do any therapies with my clients, because opportunities didn’t occur naturally. Then I have days where we go through everything because they just came up. I’m not going to force a child to do something. My job is to benefit my kids as much as possible, whether that is teaching them to put their plate away when they’re done over the course of 6 months, or playing with them all day. Or both. I love my clients. I am subscribed to blogs, websites, magazines, research papers. I buy toys aimed for children with autism, I play with them intensely myself, and I bring them to try with every client before I make any judgement on them. I try to find out everything that is happening in my community and make sure all of my clients are aware of the events, and try to give a recommendation for each child about whether it would be a good experience for them or not.

    I realize I am the minority in this. I am the whistle-blower in my company. The first thing I ask when I come into a home, is how the other therapies in the week went. If something doesn’t add up (a child was placed in a hold, a child was brought to tears, etc.) I ask immediately if our company’s owner has been called. If he hasn’t, and parents are hesitant to call, I call as soon as I leave. I have led to 2 RBTs being fired in the 6 months I have been with the company.

    There is no excuse to drive any child, neurotypical or otherwise, to tears. No excuse to drive them to violence toward self or others. No excuse to take them outside of what they are comfortable with. It makes me sick to know that this is considered a part of ABA therapy.

    Thank you for sharing this. Maybe my “ABA” is not true ABA. I’m okay with that. I’m happy with that. All I know is that I’m comfortable with my ABA. I hope that as my clients grow up, they view it as a positive experience, even if they feel it was unnecessary. I pray that I never have a negative effect, or traumatize a child. I hope that if I ever do, I am able to recognize it and remove myself from the lives of those with autism, because if I ever do that, I’m not fit to be involved in the community anymore.

    I sincerely hope I’m not the only RBT who thinks like this.

    • Amber

      Thank you thank you thank you for being a decent human being who tries to help people. Thank you for treating us like human beings worthy of respect. Thank you for not pushing children to do arbitrary things they don’t want to do and shouldn’t have to do. Thank you for acknowledging the feelings of the children that you’re trying to help. Thank you. The world would be a better place if more people were like you.

  15. Doreen

    I wish i found this article 6 months late :(……. 2 1/2 yrs old being pushed to the corner, physically forced to sit, crying and hysterical for like 5-10 mins. Me and my child were new to aba, i trusted this so called behaviour consultant. After i found this article i immediately terminated that consultant with so much hate inside me, i hope i dont get to see her again. Thank you for helping us parents and protecting our children.

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you for such heartfelt feedback. I am so grateful that you pulled your child from that and hope that your child recovers quickly from it. It is exactly for people like your child and you that I work so much and hearing about your experiences keeps the fire lit under me to keep working and trying to help more people. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  16. Anonymous

    I was diagnosed as a “High Functioning Autistic Person™” when I was in preschool, before that I was just a “problem child.” Even after my diagnosis I was STILL just a problem child and was sent to therapy to get ABA. My major strike of luck was that they weren’t very good at their jobs and couldn’t handle an “extreme problem child” like me who would literally just walk away during treatment and would refuse to move if I didn’t want to do something like “listening to the metronome without screaming or throwing a tantrum” or “stay perfectly still until I say.” Eventually I was actually kicked out but only after they had (no joke) hung me in a sack from the ceiling and spun me around until I puked and called me “cured.”

    • unstrangemind

      Horrible. Thank you for sharing. Here’s hoping things are going much better for you these days than when you were a kid. <3

  17. Anonymous

    Thank you so much for this article. My son will be three soon and was diagnosed with autism at 2 years and 5 months old. He currently participates in speech and occupational therapy, and his therapists are WONDERFUL. Shortly after his diagnosis, I toured a local autism center that provides ABA therapy seven hours a day five days a week. From the moment I entered the center, I felt that this form of therapy was night right for my child. When discussing the possibility of sending him there, I said some of the exact things you say in your article to my husband. Even though he doesn’t talk, my son has such a wonderful personality, and I felt that ABA therapy all day long would take away his personality and break his spirit.

  18. Finding jackson

    Thank you for this. Thankfully my son hasn’t had to endure this kind of ABA, but even some of the gentler approaches of his preschool PRT felt a little mechanical to me. Now we have in-home “ABA” (for insurance purposes only) therapy with therapists who respect his intelligence, choices, and interests as well as his sensory needs. We observe our son’s responses and help dictate what goals are important, but he is given veto power over specific activities and always choices. We discuss these with him and choose goals that will empower him to be more independent and confident in who he is, not more “normal.” Though he is minimally verbal, he is learning to communicate via RPM his thoughts, experiences, feelings, hopes, desires, and dreams, helping us to understand more and more who he is and what’s important to him.

    • unstrangemind

      Thank you for sharing. I am so happy that he is learning to communicate more! That is sooooo important for getting closer to others and getting his needs and wants met. So happy!

  19. LJT

    Thank you for posting this. I’m a BCaBA, and I consider it part of my job to read articles, blogs, and message boards written by people with autism (apologies in advance if you are offended by “person-first” language). Many of the stories I read are heartbreaking, and I consider myself lucky to work for a clinical director diagnosed with Aspergers. He went through Lovaas ABA as a child, and has made it his mission to only use ABA interventions that are both effective and respectful of the individuals’ autonomy.

    At our clinic, eye-contact is never a goal. Sessions are limited to 1-3hrs, stimming is not punished or restricted, and our main focus is on functional independence. Parents are encouraged to watch sessions through a 2-way mirror (though most of them see therapy time as a break and just sit in the lobby on their phones). We don’t even use the term “problem behavior,” because that addresses the caregivers’ complaints; not the needs of the child. It’s described by the term “maladaptive behavior,” because our #1 concern is independence. Before picking a goal, we ask, “Will this lead to an improvement in his/her quality of life?” If not, we discard it.

    I’ve cancelled sessions after the first 10min because a client was unresponsive or in sensory distress. (We do not charge caregivers for cancelled sessions.) I’ve switched clients to another therapist because we didn’t ‘click’ – Which is a nice way of saying they didn’t like me. I’ve written “Cinderella’s Rules for Dating” for a 21yr old Disney fan who needed to learn about sexual boundaries for her own safety, and “Why is Daddy Gone?” for a boy whose father was deployed in the army, and I even learned basic Hebrew to help a client prepare for his bar mitzvah.

    I guess what I’m trying to say is that *all* of that is included in “ABA.” Any time someone uses the formula: Antecedent->Behavior->Consequence, they are using ABA, whether it’s in a clinic, classroom, or workplace, with children or adults, across the whole spectrum of neurotypes. Applied Behavior Analysis is a discipline that constantly reviews and updates its methods, based on data, research, and feedback. ABA has come a long way since Lovaas- Particularly in its ethics. It’s up to practitioners to listen to autistic adults, and to alter their interventions accordingly.

    Again, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. Your perspective is extremely valuable.

    • Missy

      I love your response to this and I love hearing what you’re doing for your kids! My ABA practitioner is excellent and my son and I have grown to love her like family. I participate in his therapy for 5 hours a week, and other family members and even a very close friend come to participate, as well, so that we can all be “on the same page” with the phrases we use and how we handle certain behaviors. We need more ABA therapists who truly love these kids, as it sounds like you do, because we love them, too!

  20. Missy

    I came upon this post a little late. I have to say that the ABA that my son participates in is very different from what you describe here. The things he loves are not “held hostage” from him, but rather are goals he can achieve. He is asked what he wants to work for and is given his reward after his work is accomplished. He is joyful and excited when he works for a reward, just as adults with jobs are rewarded with paychecks. I don’t see that this is a bad thing. Also, my son was absolutely miserable before ABA. He was abusive to others and never gave his family members peace or enjoyment. He cried ALL the time, broke things, ran away in dangerous situations, wasn’t afraid of oncoming traffic, snakes, strangers, etc. In other words, he had no quality of life and neither did the rest of us. Since ABA, he has learned to ask for what he wants and even is beginning to learn that when he is not allowed to have what he wants, it isn’t worth throwing a big fit. (For example, I will not be providing him with ice cream at 1 am!) He cries much less, is learning to play nicely with friends and is discovering that there is fun to be had when taking turns and sharing. He is beginning to enjoy positive attention more than negative attention, which is fantastic because if he continued to seek negative attention as an adult, he would probably end up in jail or in a facility of some kind – people will tolerate being poked in the crotch by a child, but I can’t imagine that this would be accepted AT ALL when he is an adult. I hope I’m not coming across as angry or aggressive. I fully agree that your opinions are your right and that you have reasons why you developed those opinions. I merely wanted to offer my own opinion that ABA has been a life saver for us and my child is undeniably happier now that he is in it 25 hours a week. I was worried that I would be physically unable to care for him as he gets older because he is very strong and was so very aggressive. Now I feel hopeful that he will be able to live happily at home with the people who love him most as he gets older. (If he wanted to live in a group home or other place I would love for him to be able to function well enough to decide to do that but if he is happiest at home, the I would love to be able to allow him to stay with us.) In other words, none of us could have continued to live like we were living before ABA. It literally saved our home life and our minds and bodies! I’m sorry that this is apparently not always the case but as I type this, it is April 2018 and laws and requirements for ABA programs have changed a lot according to the information I’m getting from authorities and accrediting bodies in my state. I’ve seen many frustrated, angry parents at the end of their ropes who were much more guilty of abuse than anything we’ve experienced with ABA. Parents who are exhausted, unsupported, giving up their quality of life and ability to do normal things like go out to eat or even grocery shop need ABA services. I’m thankful that I don’t have regrets about how I treated my child before his ABA, but that isn’t always the case. The worst treatment of autistic kids I’ve ever seen came from people who were overwhelmed and under such stress and anxiety that they are the ones who “lost it” and behaved in an abusive way, not from their ABA therapists.

  21. Hannah

    Thank you for taking the time to post this. I am a student of behavior analysis and have been working in the field for a few years. I appreciate that you take the time to delve into what specifically about ABA is harmful to autistics. I think that sharing these views are a big part of what have helped us to grow and refine the ethics of our field, and I hope that my fellow practitioners take into account voices such as yours. I feel physically ill reading about the trauma that you have endured and your account of forced eye contact of another little girl. I am deeply sorry that you experienced those things.

    As a practitioner, I am constantly striving to do better and learn. Reading posts like this make me really examine and scrutinize the way that I interact with those that I work with. I seek to build relationships with each child first and foremost, and goals are always focused on things that will help enrich the individual’s life and open their access to new environments. Goals are always specific to that individual (things such as requesting items they want, learning to dress themselves or complete bathroom routines to reduce the chances of abuse later on for individuals who will likely live in a group environment, staying with parents in public so that they can safely access the community, etc. depending on the individuals need), and never selected with the mindset of making someone look more NT. I never restrain, never force compliance or eye contact (though we do work on compliance the same way you would with any child to keep them safe). Parents are always present, and having taken that time to get to know the individuals that I work with, I always try to create an environment that is motivating and based on the things that they enjoy, no matter how long that takes to lay that foundation before we begin working on any of the other stuff. I am a parent myself and of the “gentle parenting” camp, and my rule of thumb is to always be sure that whatever I am doing with a client is a way that I would also be comfortable to myself or someone else interacting with my own daughter.

    I think one area that I want to clarify is that ABA is a science, and that just like any science, it can be applied for harm or it can be applied for good. I am not naive enough to believe that there aren’t a great many practitioners practicing the way that you described, things like stopping stim behaviors, attempts at making people look neurotypical, or a 40 hour per week prescription are not inherent to ABA. ABA is the applied branch of behavior analysis, which is a way of understanding behavior as it is influenced by the environment. This science seeks to explain all human behavior, and applied work is done with a variety of populations. Applied applications can range from businesses, to behavioral medicine, personal fitness, acceptance and commitment therapy, addiction, criminal justice, education, and gerontology, though a majority of practitioners do work with individuals with autism at present. I do not mention this to invalidate what you say, but to make the distinction that the thoughtful, ethical practitioners doing good work with do still fall under the umbrella of ABA and are not misnaming themselves. There is a history of “Behavior Modification” that sought to punish certain behavior, and use reinforcement without understanding the “why”, but present day behavior analysis seeks to understand the “why” and to use that why to help the individual access what they want or need, and thus that behavior is communication. Again I am not naive enough to believe that everyone out there is practicing that way, but a great many are. I mention this because, as you noted, there are many practitioners out there working for good, and I would venture to say that due to refinements in our science, certification and ethics boards that did not previously exist, and a general rise and emphasis on humanistic, client centered, individualized therapy, there will continue to be more and more of those practitioners.

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